Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Why can't we all just get along?!

Cooperation is a key aspect of the relationship between genders that initiates power.  Both men and women must work together in every day situations to get through.  Whether it be in a relationship, co-workers, or other cases, genders will always have to cooperate in one way or another.  Where do the rough patches happen though?  Is cooperation easier for men or women?  Why do we get so aggravated with each other?  Relationships between males and females vary due to their cooperation, in same-sex and mixed-sex situations.  There are so many instances that girls can't stand other girls, while guys compete too much with other guys.  On the other hand, men and women constantly live in the stereotypical expectations as we fight for power, while trying to get the other to cooperate.  The article "Sex Differences in Cooperation: A Meta-Analytic Review of Social Dilemmas" explains the perspectives of each gender, as psychologists, Daniel Balliet, Norman P. Li, Shane J. Macfarlan, and Mark Van Vugt, carried out this study.
Power is constantly desired by both genders.  Men expect to recieve respect and power, while women must step up to demand it.  Respect and power, are they the same thing?  Some may so, but I think you can definately respect someone without giving them power and even moreso give power to someone who you don't actually respect, but you fear.  Men enjoy the thrill of power.  According to the study, men are "more independent, assertive, ambitious, and dominant" while women are more like housewives who are "less selfish, more caring, friendly, and emotionally expressive" which can cause the cooperation status to alter.  We are more likely to cooperate with someone who is friendly and nurturing, rather than overbearing.  In same-sex relationships, women are easier to cooperate with since they are open minded, but on the other hand there is constant judging and lack of trust.  Women may be emotionally blunt, but there are fall backs.  Men, of course, are competing for "social dominance" constantly, so they will never cooperate easily with one another.  For same-sex relationships, it is more likely that both genders will be successfully cooperative in repeated instances, as they adjust and become aware.  As for mixed-sex relationships, women are surprisingly easier.  I say "surprisingly" because stereotypically women are the prosecuters in relationships. 
In television and other media, there are examples of the cooperation between genders.  As seen in the clip below from "Boy Meets World", men and women in relationships may not always understand each other which can lead to lack of cooperation and even rebellion but they can work it out... as this ends in humor...
The matter of context is a whole other matter.  Power is generated by confidence and when a gender enters a situation that is fitting to their knowledge, they will recieve power.  Stereotypically, men would take over in mechanical or active actions, while women are better mentally and analytically.  When, where, how, and what is going on definately matters when it comes to cooperation.
Reference:
Balliet, Daniel, Li, Norman P., Macfarlan, Shane J., Van Vugt, Mark (2011). Sex Differences in Cooperation: A Meta-Analytic Review of Social Dilemmas. Psychological Bulletin, 2011, Vol. 137, No. 6, 881-909.  2011 American Psychological Association.

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